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March 10, 2014


Stephanie Schuler

I always try to motivate my kids (and my preschool students) in small ways through all my actions. I bet if you broke all your everyday activities (shopping, chores, etc), you'd find a teachable moment every few hours! Just think outside of the box!


I grew up in a tough neighborhood. The same as my old man did where is was a common occurrence to fight simply because of race. In the 80s for me, that shifted to even the same race. LA. I remember as a kid an older boy named Petey boy from a gang snatched up a group of us younger boys and gave us all boxing gloves and made all of the younger kids fight each other for their amusement and to bet on us. I would come home regularly with a busted lip or nose, but my dad veiwed it as growing up where we did. He didn't get involved except for teaching me to fight better and that angered me, but now I understand. He actually taught me how to survive and no t to quit. He tried very hard not for me to grow up as he did, but it happened anyway and he wanted to make sure I survived since dads can't always be there. Today, I'm a Marine Officer. My dads lesson was simple, do better for your children. If you can't, ensure they have the tools to make it through. Through life, I have saved numerous friends and Marines in my life from dangerous situations due to having the skills taught to me. Not a day goes by I don't thank my dad for teaching me those skills. They really came in handy. Now that I have 4 daughters and we are not in an environment like me or my dad were in. Obviously things will be different.


Living the example.... Very simple advice :)


Teaching values,compassion,understanding, & the will to right a wrong is so important.
As a 21 yr old I made a mistake in who i hung out with. As a result I now have one felony drug conviction from 1985. I am now 51 and have not been that ignorant young person in 27 yrs.
As I write this I find that people still judge me on that one mistake. I cannot get jobs cleaning houses, or providing pet care through some nationally advertised companies. They say I am not suitable to work for them.
The scariest part is this is a value they will teach their children...intolerance, lack of compassion, failure to see the good in reformed people.
So to read your story about helping those who are bullied & have lost their sense of self worth is great! No one should be made to feel they have no value like I am from this very company we are putting our comments on. This is the company that say's I am not good enough to hire because I did time for my stupidity 27 years ago. It doesn't matter that I tutor kids everyday, have great work references, and one heck of a work ethic. I am all these things because I made a mistake and I believe in earning your way back to being an asset in society. But society and care.com do not see it that way. They will not let people like me even look for work through them because apparently we have no ethics and cannot be trusted to be inside your homes cleaning or caring for your pets.
I pray that there are more people such as yourself that teach our kids that we are all human. We will make mistakes, but that if you learn from them and teach others to learn from them then all is not lost. We as humans are a work in progress.
Thank you for reading this.
(who has no value)

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