Here’s a nice blog post for Thanksgiving week. Chris Snell manages our Inside Sales Team at Care.com. Right before he and his wife welcomed their second baby, he took the time to write to his first born. As parents, it’s a sweet reminder of everyday joy we have to be thankful for.
My house is quiet. My son is asleep up in his room (or at least I hope he is). My wife Krissy, who’s about to give birth to our second child (seriously, I’m talking days away here), has fallen asleep watching Sunday Night Football, and all I can think about is how our world is going to be completely changed in a such a short amount of time. For six years it’s just been the three of us, and now we’re about to welcome another little Snell into the world.
My sister and I are only a few years apart, so I don’t remember at all what it was like when my parents brought her home. Did I feel jealous? Did I try to help parent? I haven’t a clue what it felt like to have someone invade “my” territory. But I do know that we are very close now.
I’m concerned that our little guy is going to feel forgotten when that little bundle of joy comes home. I’m afraid that he’s going to notice that all of the focused attention he’s been accustomed to for so long -- is now shared. What’s going to happen when hurricane-new-baby lands in his living room? Every. Day?
That said, I thought I’d share with you some things that I hope our little guy knows in the wake of the arrival of his little sister (yeah, we found out):
Mommy and I love you VERY much – Just because there’s another family member here, doesn’t mean that Mom and I love you any less. In fact, Mom and I love you more than you’ll ever know. I want you to see how we dote on this baby and know that we did the same exact thing for you when you first came home too.
You will always be our baby – It doesn’t matter how many children we have, you’re our first and will always be our little baby boy. For a little while, it’s going to feel like your new sibling is getting everyone’s attention, but that doesn’t mean that we love you any less. In fact there’s going to be so much about you that we appreciate even more now.
The crying in the middle of the night will eventually stop – Buddy, it’s just something babies do. They’re trying to find their sleeping rhythm. You went through it, too, and look at how great you sleep now. I promise that Mom and I will try to keep you from it, but our house only has so many rooms.
As a big brother, you’ve got a lot of responsibility now – Your sister is going to look up to you, and will want to do everything that you can do. That’s a big deal, pal. You’ve got to help show her how to make good decisions and make good choices. I want you to try to be her friend. You will have each other for life, and that’s the best gift Mom and I can give you.
We’re going to need your help – There are going to be some times when we need your help, bud. We may need you to pay extra close attention to our words. We may need you to listen really hard to what we say. Harder than you have before. This means doing what we ask the first time we ask you, like cleaning up your toys or getting dressed all by yourself. Regardless, we need you in the game, pal. I know you’ll have days when you’re good at this, and days when you get frustrated. We will be here for you for either of those days.
Most of all pal, we want you to know how very special you are. From the moment Mommy and I found out you were coming, we couldn't wait to see you. We have that very same feeling each and every morning waiting for you to wake up, to come home from school, when I come home from work, or when we come back from a night out. You are our little prince (or knight, as you like to say) and no addition to our family will ever change that.