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January 21, 2013



Of course not!!! She has no right to impose her ideas onto your child. Her issue is between you and her, not her student. You should tell the principal!!

Kathleen Muster

This teacher clearly overstepped his line! He has no business telling YOUR child what to eat or what not to eat of the selections you sent with him. I would complain the the higher-ups. In writing! With a copy to the State Board of Education.

Karen Coleman

Absolutely not! Neither our government nor our schools have a right to govern us how to parent. Legislate laws, then make us responsible if we break those laws. An occasional Twinkie does not cause obesity!


Absolutely, schools should control what kids at AT school.

1. They are a place of education and teaching kids what is healthy is not only ok but wonderful. You are lucky that you have a school that cares about their health.

2. We know that a high-sugar snack during the day can send a child's blood sugar up, only to crash shortly after. How can we expect our children to concentrate and learn in this state?

3. There are other children besides your child there. It is perfectly reasonable to expect some form of equity in that all kids should have a reasonably healthy snack.

Again, I cannot emphasize how LUCKY you are to have a school that cares about the children's health. My school has decided to not even mess with snack due to allergies and so my child who depends on healthy snacks for energy does not even get a piece of fruit or anything at all. Try concentrating when you are starving!!! :(

Of course, you can treat your child with anything you like AFTER school but in my opinion schools can and should teach healthy lifestyles!


100% Shame on them. I cannot believe we have gotten to this point in our society. Maybe that teacher should focus more on teaching her students math or English. This is a complete disgrace to the educational system. No wonder our students are falling so far behind the rest of the world.

Alan Brown

Was it snack time? Why can't he eat the Twinkie? Is it because some fascist dictator of a teacher arbitrarily decided that kids shouldn't eat Twinkies? I don't care if your son is telling the truth. He should be able to eat his Twinkie in peace, and the teacher should shut up and leave him alone. Obviously, I hate pointless coercive force put upon children---it's the worst sort of bullying. So I think you should take a stronger stance against the teacher and in support of your son and your freedom to send a Twinkie for snack.

Anna Tarkov

This makes me so angry! Schools have NO right to dictate what snacks parents can give their kids. There is enough judgement of parents already, we don't need another source for it.


There is ZERO reason your son's teacher had any business governing your choice of snack. Unless there is something specific in the food rules of the school, and you signed something agreeing to those rules.

If your kid was eating at a non-eating time, I can understand, too; however, if it was snack time, and the Twinkie doesn't violate some rule, the teacher had no right to ban it. You are the parent, and you choose what your son eats. Everything in moderation.


My child's daycare teacher told me once that he is poor thing to have soups on lunch. Heh, yes! First, it is cultural, and second, it is much healthier to eat home made from scratch soup than ANY sandwiches. Have you seen as many fat children is Europe as in USA? Have you seen as many children with allergies in Europe than in USA? sorry, no pizza, no hot dog, no hamburger and no mac&cheese for my child! It should be a real food, not fastfood. This is my choice what to give my child for lunch, and he loves soup and eats the entire portion I provide. Why would teacher care? They provide snack themselves, and I don't tell them what to give children. Even though I would not like my son to eat cheddar corn balls or granham crekers or any cookies... Instead I would prefer an apple or non-artificial yogurt. But I keep my mouth shut, so should do teaches... IMHO.

Melissa R

OMG I would be furious! Was there a reason the teacher did not want him to eat the Twinkie? Unless it would directly have an effect on the safety of others this teacher has ZERO right to go against the choices of the parent. While my children eat healthy 85% of the time I too send in a "treat" on occasion. Yes, the Twinkie may not have been healthy but he is YOUR son and the teacher crossed the line! I would take this to the next level...and send in twinkies every day after...


Excuse Me? Why did the teacher tell your son NOT to eat the Twinkie? This is preposterous! It's one thing to tell your son not to squeeze the lovely inside cream of a Twinkie on a fellow student, but what the heck is this teacher doing telling your son not to eat it???


To follow up from my previous comment....schools and teachers have strayed to far from the 3 R's and focused too much on subjects that should be taught at home. Oh yah...for those of you who don't know the 3R's mean Reading, Writing and Arithmetic!


This is very disturbing - no, the school should not monitor what a parent has chosen to give the child. If there are concerns about the quality, the school should contact the patent for a discussion, but penalizing the child is absolutely wrong. In addition, the school should abide by the parent's decisions on how they feed their children. This is just another example of the "nanny state" we live in. Funny how we can't fire bad teachers but they somehow think they should have the right to interfere with our day to day parenting methods.

Kevin J.

This qualifies as an article? The headline is completely misleading and there's really no content, besides the all-too-frequent "kid misinterprets what adult is saying line". This would have been more appropriate as a status update in the social media world than as an article.


The should only do this if their is
A medical reason as such as peanut butter
Other wise no
Next time the teacher talk to the child.
He or she should tell the child to repeate
What he said to make sure the child understand


Absolutely not. But then there are many areas in which schools have repeatedly over-stepped their bounds to dictate how we choose to raise our children. The issue isn't if a Twinkie is a good snack...and given what school lunches contain...it is hypocritical to even go there, the issue is the schools really should not have the right to decide what snacks are appropriate.


I don't judge you for sending the Twinkie. I've definitely been there with a nearly empty pantry and no time for grocery shopping! You did send your son with two other healthy options that would have been better choices. I also don't judge your son's teacher. She told him not to do something, he did it anyway and so she gave what she felt was an appropriate consequence. I DO think schools have a right to govern the snacks kids eat while they are at school. The food that your child eats at 10 a.m. directly affects his behavior and academic performance for the rest of the day. The "crash" a child will experience as the result of eating a sugary snack (or no snack at all) affects the teacher and the rest of the students in class. If a parent wants to give an unhealthy snack at home, that's their business, but schools have a right to enforce things like snacks, dress codes, etc. because they directly impact the learning of the child.

Carmen Caballer

Absolutely NOT! My 8-year-old daughter is underweight because she is such a pickie eater, so it gets me to try to be sooo creative in order to meet school's "healthy" standards and motivate her enough to eat her snacks. Bottomline, I prefer that she eats a pouch of chips than to have her starving the whole day. This is a very anoying situation for me.


Only when it comes to food allergies others might have that impact their health. The question should be how can healthy snacks impact those on small food budgets and many individuals to support.


When I was a child, my school didn't allow any snack that had sugar or salt in the first five ingredients. It was a pain at the time, but it was an easy way to teach kids to identify foods that are healthy. These kind of lessons are even more important today with the health and obesity crisis children are facing.

Kids are influenced by their peers and I'd prefer my child not know that Twinkies exist (or existed) if that is possible. So i would be fine with rules that limit snacks to healthy, non sweet or non pre-packaged options.


Once again, "The system" feels the need to get between a parent and a child. I could understand if a parent "only" gave their child unhealthy foods for lunch, but clearly this is not the case. You are a conscientious parent and the school needs to stay out of it. You should never have to defend yourself when being a good parent and doing what you think is best for your family.


My wife was a teacher for 15 years. She said too many parents assume their kids tell the whole story, but often leave out critical details. (Your comment that says "okay, so it turns out there was more to the story" supports this.) You need to defer judgment until you discuss it with the teacher.

Also, please clarify a few things.

1. Did the teacher say that he couldn't eat it at all, or that he couldn't eat it right then? If he was eating it in the classroom or outside of a snack time, he may have been violating a rule.
2. Was your child "showing off" or making a spectacle using the twinkie? If so, perhaps taking the twinkie away stopped his behavior or calmed the class.
3. Does the school have a policy about snacks? If so, perhaps the teacher was adhering to that policy.
4. Did the teacher specifically say that she kept your son from recess simply because he ate a twinkie? Do all kids that are your son's class that eat a twinkie get recess privileges revoked?

Regarding your question, "Should schools govern the snacks we give our kids?" the underlying question is one of your freedom of choice vs. school/classroom/teach policies for snacks. Find out the real reason. At the very worst, don't give your child a snack that will get them in trouble. It's not worth it, and you'll be planting a seed in your child that it's okay to defy authority arbitrarily.


I am both a teacher and a mother. I also happen to have 2 children who battle weight issues and one who doesn't. I believe that parents should choose what to send in with their children. It is great to send home parameters for families to follow, however, it should really be left to the family. You listed one great reason, the need for a shopping trip. There is also the needs of the individual child and family. From a teachers standpoint it puts us in a difficult position, enforcing rules on the student who can't always control the situation and then having to deal with parental back lash. I personally don't like all the snacks incorporated into our children's lives. It seems like every two hours we are trying to feed them.


I agree that a Twinkie may not be a good routine snack for an 8 year old -- or anyone for that matter. However, if I sent this snack with my child for whatever reason - be it a special treat/a choice because of a lack of other choices/ or just my decision....I would be absolutely LIVID if a teacher interfered with my decision and told my child that he/she could not have something that I clearly had given them. If this teacher wanted to contact me and discuss this situation, that would be okay - I guess. But this teacher completely overstepped her boundaries by taking this position and putting my child in a situation in which he did not belong, creating unnecessary stress on my young child. Period.


If you cannot enjoy a Twinkie when you are a child, I don't know when you ever can. The teach should talk to the parents before making food decisions and punishments on other people's kids. It is bad enough the government is telling me and my kids what light bulbs to use and what clothing to wear. It is frightening that a person can't step out of tune even for a second. Big Brother is here to stay. I find it terrifying that a teacher can punish a child for eating something his/her Mom gave him/her.

Matthew Ellis

The government should NOT tell what your child is able to eat as a snack (aka Hostess). If the President and his wife can have a 3k calorie lunch, why cant you? If you are the type of child that burns serious calories all day, then it wouldnt matter. When I was a young teen I could easily eat 5 beef n cheddar's and was still grossly under weight. Healthy weight now if curious. Every kid is different and an individual who is special in their own way. I wish the government would stop trying to make everyone fit into their perfect mold.

mary hudson

I had a similiar sitution with my daughter.. In first grade , she was made to stand on the table in lunch room , while the nun told all the kids, that what she was wearing was not approbiate. The school did not have uniforms and there wasn;t any dress code at that time.....needless to say when she came home and told me that i to saw red... long story short . i took her out of catholic and put in public school for the next 8 years with no problems.. I don;t understand how some one can do that to CHILDREN. it leaves a last impression.


This is a power hungry teacher trying to assert her authority on an 8 year old. This goes way to far. If I as a parent want to give my child a treat so be it. How does she know that wasn't a reward for them getting an A or keeping there room clean for a week. What else is she doing that my child might not think is a big deal. This was an easy catch for the kid to say that she punished me for a twinkie. I would question what else is she or has she done.


No, a teacher or the school should not govern what we feed our children. This is outside the scope of the authority of the US Department of Education. They can however offer education for nutrition and healthy eating but that is their limit. I think the fact that the Dept. of Education has over 35 million dollars invested in grants makes them invested in a positive outcome. Tell your school to butt out of your personal choices!

Mom of J & J

The school made the right call. Have you ever noticed how at a birthday party, the kids get a little wild after the cake? Teachers don't want that happening to their students at school. Look at the ingredients listed on the twinkie package. It's not really food, it's not really nutrition, it's really just junk. Sugar, corn syrup, artificial flavors and colorings have an immediate adverse affect on the behavior of many kids. Your little guy should have good nutrition to fuel his body for recess and to fuel his brain after recess. Good nutrition will help your kid learn better ... he'll be better able to listen and pay attention, think clearer, and be calmer so he can focus and work. It's also not a great idea to feed the little guy sugary cereals or Pop Tarts before he heads out to school. Yummy junk food will make him happy, and when he tells you how great YOU are for giving him the "best" food - it might make you feel like the favorite mom - but it's not what is good for him. Keeping junk food out of kids - and out of school - is the best choice.


SHAME on the school teacher. That is your child and you packed the snack bag. If the teacher has a concern with the snacks being sent, they should address the parent. And why did he tell him he couldn't eat it? While I appreciate the difficult job that teachers have and the constant monitoring required for the safety of children, telling a kid he can't eat his twinkie is over the line.

Maria Arvizu

I do not feel that a teacher should take away the kids snack, a treat every now and again is ok. That being I tread the waters and be bold to say, if your child is over weight it would be a good opportunity for the school to talk to you and your son about healthy choices.


No. It's none of their business. If the teacher had a problem with the snack she should have contacted you, not punished the child for it. I think the teacher should focus on education instead. There are enough problems in the classroom as it stands.

Melissa Visek

Shame on them!


The teacher went too far. Had you sent your child to school with a lard sandwich then I see the point but she over-stepped her boundaries and ought to be given an earful of that which she thinks she is above; rules of conduct. Just when does one draw the line. I wish my kid's teachers would try to tell my children not to eat something. They know me far better than to think that they could even remotely stop my children from eating something I gave them. As for the teacher thinking that you are a bad mother: forget it. There are parents who don't bother to pack snacks much less have lunch for them. If that teacher doesn't get put into her place quick she will keep crossing the line.


Are they out of their respective minds??? So long as it does not encrouch on the "no peanut" rule, I think it is perfectly acceptable for you to pack whatever you wish for your son's lunch.

Ric Pelkey

Hello Linda,

Love your story :) Oh how the education system loves to control. Our son's been denied the right to bring a water bottle into class to drink when he's thirsty. He must only drink at water break times, and it must be municipal water from the fountain. The clean pruified water we send will not be tolerated. Our other son accidently wore the wrong footwear to phys-ed and had to sit out the next day for that enormous error. I could go on and on, but I won't. Ok just one more. Last July we moved to Houston, Texas from Calgary, Canada. Both my boys were born and raised in Canada and of course do not find Houston cold, even now in January. Last week my 7 year old was forced to put on his sweater while getting ready for dismissal. When he told the teacher on duty that he came from a cold country and wasn't cold, he was told "I don't care, put it on".

You and I are very lucky we have schools and teachers that are so very concerned about our children, that at any given moment they will step in to ensure they are properly taken care of. Even if this undermines our decisions we make or even the child's decisions. It battles against all my wife and I are trying to teach our children. For example we are very confident our son can gauge the weather we he goes outside, and will put his sweater on if he's cold.

You've done nothing wrong Linda. Sure twinkies are unhealthy, but nothing is wrong with it when in moderation, especially when you are also feeding them healthy food as well. Don't feel guilty.

Want my advice? SEND ANOTHER TWINKIE ;)

Ric Pelkey

Mama of J & H

To Mom of J & J - Did you ever notice that kids at a birthday party are a little wild in general? Just because you think sugar makes your kids hyperactive doesn't mean that all kids should be forced to eat what you deem is fit. There's a ton of sugar in fruit too...should that be banned? If you really want to argue it, corn syrup is perfectly natural too - it's derived from corn, right? Sugar is not evil and schools are there to educate, not regulate. Moderation is the key, and sometimes food can be eaten just because it tastes good. Not everything has to be nutritious, and if you had read the article, you would have seen that the author did pack two healthier snacks in addition to the Twinkie.


I understand the need for healthy living. I love the idea that schools would educate kids on a healthy diet. But there's a serious disconnect. My sons teachers are on me constently to feed my child healthy food so as to keep a healthy mind and then the school district turns around and sends over a cinnamon roll and CANNED fruit and fruit juice. 100% sugar!! Lunch isn't any different it sugar,carbs and mystery meat


what was he jelous that your kid at a 1 million dollar twinkie since it was the last one left on earth maybe the teacher wanted it for ebay to auction it off, still we has parents have the right for our kids to have a treat once in a while and like you said would they rather you starve him or send him with the last bit of food in the house healty or not as mom with no food in the house you made the choice to make sure he did have something to eat!! i applaude you and i think that is something for the teacher to appoligize for to you and your son.

Hunter's Dad

It is not acceptable for the teacher to determine what the child may, and may not eat. As parents, we have to make decisions for our children's health. Certainly, it might have been appropriate for the teacher to send the mother an email, or a telephone call asking "could you please avoid sending snacks such as this in the future." But there's a level at which the teacher is NOT permitted to question my parenting decisions. And punishing the student over a SNACK? Was he coating himself in Twinkie filling and dancing on the desk? Was he being vulgar with it?

Teacher wants to determine what my kid gets for snack time? Teacher can pay that part of the family grocery bill. Its enough for me that I avoid at all costs "any nut containing product," when the school can't even tell me that there's definitively a kid, who is present in the same room when my child eats his lunch, with a nut allergy. You've already limited my choices, and now you're questioning them?

To quote a TV character from years gone by..."Homey don't play that."


The teacher/school have NO right to tell you what you can and cannot feed your child! Every child is different and has different nutritional needs which is an assessment their parent should make not a school or teacher!! And there is NOTHING wrong with an occasional Twinkie! It's those who withhold sweets and treats completely that will cause their child to suffer because once they are out in the real world and taste it they won't know how to control themselves and will eat to excess. I have witnessed the consequences to my friend who was never allowed to have treats like that growing up and now all she eats is junk! In stark comparison my mother would send me with the occasional small bag of cookies, etc (much like yourself - along with healthy fruit etc). And as an adult I hardly even want the stuff. Bottom line you are the parent and YOU know your child best and what is best for them!!!


You seriously sent your kid to school with a twinkie for a snack?!! Do you have any idea what's in that? You have time to write a blog but not to go grocery shopping for food for your kid?

And all these parents so outraged that their kids can't sit in class shoving sugar and chemicals in their mouths? I'm guessing they also have the time to go and tell teacher's off but not make a nice dinner for their family.

I'm so glad we chose private school.


Hi, Linda. I don't usually comment on blogs, but after reading the comments above I thought I'd chime in. My three grandchildren have lived with me for the past 4 years and it's been an eye-opener for me to experience how different things are in schools since I raised my children. Our school district, prodded on by our PTO, instituted some very specific "home-provided" food guidelines. In the beginning ALL snacks, birthday treats and classroom party treats had to be "healthy." This meant no birthday cupcakes, no cookies, no juice boxes, no Valentine candy treats. WOW! I thought these people were wacko! It was next to impossible to find something to bring for a birthday treat, so parents started sending pencils and cute erasers. We have at least 100 of these pencils that have been collected over the past few years. Well, parent complaints brought an easing of these restrictions and now "treats" on special occasions are allowed. But, the school still insists that afternoon snacks from home be "healthy." I think this is a good idea. We have problems with childhood obesity in this country and we also have issues with sugar addiction (which causes diabetes). What I take issue with in your story, Linda, is the punishment for breaking the rules. Seems out of line and not the norm. I'm guessing that this teacher may have been having a bad day. A simple hand-written note or email reminding you of the "rules" would have been more appropriate. Take a deep breath people and don't sweat the small stuff. We have much bigger problems to worry about...right?


When your kids are with you, they follow your rules. When they're in someone else's care, it's their rules. That said, as a nation we top the charts with kids suffering from obesity and diabetes. If someone cares enough to look out for your son, just say thank you.


I have to side with the teacher here. I run a preschool and have seen parents pack Skittles for "snack" - those are usually the kids who are spinning around like tops during story time when the other kids are listening and learning, except they are being distracted by the sugared-up kid who's still spinning.

To all the people here who say the teacher has no right to ask no Twinkies during school/learning time: If YOU could do the job and sit in her shoes of whom all 25+ kids have had Twinkies for snacks - and then judge this teacher. Also, since this teacher would rather not have ALL children doped up on a Twinkie-high, it would be unfair to the other children if only this child could have a Twinkie. And yes, I have seen children brag to their other friends that THEY got the sweets for snack and not the others - so I find it very believable that you son probably did the same. LAY OFF THE TEACHER, stop being so defensive, and perhaps use this as a learning experience or wake-up call.

There is a reason that the makers of Twinkies went bankrupt - most parents don't feed their kids that junk anymore...


You have done absolutely nothing wrong. While I do feel schools and teachers have a certain degree of resposibility to educate our children about healthy eating, I do believe what a child eats is their parent's decision. It is one thing to encourage, but this teacher has crossed a line.


100 years ago, no one would have thought a TWINKIE was junk food. Carbohydrates were hard to come by and so were fats. A rich food, it may be but not a completely useless food.


It is contradictory in nature since teachers at our school give candy as rewards, but our schools rule is snacks have to be healthy. If a student brings a sweet they have to take it to lunch. We were notified of the rule up front. The kids don't get punished.... I NEVER agree w taking away recess. I would have been pretty mad.


What is Twinkie? Speaking about junk food - we simply don't keep it at our home. So, no chance to send kids with such kind of food to school or to any other place. That's simple.


While I would never feed my son a Twinkie (famous last words, right? -- Since there could be extenuating circumstances such as yours where I might permit BPA, GMO, Twinkie etc. rather than having him starve), schools and teachers can suggest/recommend to parents what kids should and should not eat, but they can't stop them from eating it unless it has been written as a rule and agreed to by the parents in advance. He can't just make up the law as he goes based on what he read in this morning's newspaper. The school board should suspend him and send him for a psych evaluation.

Angel R

I had a similar insident with my daughters teacher as well. My husband doesnt make much money and only gets paid once a month and buying snacks for TWO children to last a month is extremely hard. So to compinsate I bought cereal for them to take granted I let them pick out their own but it was still fairly healthy but her teacher kept telling her she couldnt bring that for snack and to bring crackers or something. Now I'm all for the schools making sure our children eat healthy but when they start making parents feel like poop because they cannot afford snacks x2 everyday thats crossing a line. Perhaps the schools should start providing those healthy snacks.


It sounds like your son missed his recess for either "choosing" to not listen to the teacher's directions or "not hearing" the teacher's directions! The "Not Listening and Following Directions" is over the top rampant in our classrooms! And it causes teachers the BETTER part of their DAY, just rephrasing, re-quoting, repeating or justifying what they've asked 24 students to do at every point of every day! Children are NOT listening and FOLLOWING directions, for the most part: deemed, by most teachers, as an epidemic!
NOW...did the teacher have a right to tell your child "not to eat the Twinkie"? I, as the parent would need to know the REASON for that, before I blew a gasket. And THEN, and only then, could I determine whether or not to go above the teacher's head with a complaint! Most of previous comments show, that parents assume right from the start...WAY TOO MUCH, and that most children are constantly making good choices in their day, you'd be surprised! "Perfect little children" are not really as perfect and innocent as you would like to whole heartedly believe! Those who think THEIR child IS....are usually the very ones who's child bends the rules, doesn't listen and follow directions and is pretty proud of it. I've taught for many years and have seen this change with my own eyes, come to pass! And p.s. I still love kids and love teaching...parents, I have a few problems with! Can you tell? There is ALWAYS 2 or 3 or 4 sides to a story! Get ALL info, before you blow!!!!!


I agree with Sanjay that unless a set of rules governing what foods are and are not acceptable is in place, then the teacher went too far.

Melissa S

I think we can all agree that Twinkies are not the best food to be feeding our children. After all, it's not an actual food. But, what a child eats IS up to the parent. Schools have absolutely no business trying to usurp our authority and impose their restrictions. Yes, there are rules that need to be followed while our children are in school, but punishing a child because he eats the snack the child's parents provided is unreasonable. Bottom line: they need to respects parental rights and authority.


I think it all depends on how clearly the rules on snacks were laid out beforehand. If every parent had been told not to bring sugary snacks for snack-time, and one child does, it could create a "issue" in the class ("Why does HE get to eat a twinkie! My mom said we couldn't bring those!").

But if they hadn't told you beforehand what wasn't allowed, than this is absolutely unjustified. A note home asking that you send something else next time would be better.

But as a former teacher, I can say that if this is AFTERNOON snack, I absolutely see why they should restrict sugary food. The last couple hours of the day are the hardest time of the day to keep the class under control--allowing a healthy snack before that last stretch can be helpful, but adding sugar to the mix at that time can make it all the harder to get through. BSince he still had recess to miss after this incident, though, this sounds like something he ate with lunch, and honestly I don't see an issue with a little desert with their lunch so long as the rest is healthy and they will have a chance to run it off.


The purpose of any meal or snack is to fuel the mind and body to do what it needs to do during the course of a day. In a child's case, it's even more important that snacks and lunches give provide everything our children require to sustain their attention, work, and play. We are thankful that our kids' schools require snacks to be healthy so that kids will feel good while they're there!


I think it was absolutely within the teacher's right to tell a child to choose a different snack. THERE JOB IS TO CARE FOR OUR CHILDREN! Not only do they have your child to care for but others as well. When our children eat these sugar loaded snacks, it's not only causing a behavioral imbalance in them, but it's encouraging them to choose junk over healthy food. We expect our teachers to stand in and teach our children wonderful things but does that not also include making good choices about food they put in their bodies among other things? There shouldn't have to be a "set of rules" about what can be eaten and what cannot. It's common sense that our nation suffers with obesity and bad eating habits, our children are suffering and this teacher was brave enough to say no to your child and your child missed a recess because of it. Not only will you have learned not to but junk in his lunch, but he'll remind you when you forget because he doesn't want to loose a recess and this will instill the "right and wrong"s of eating. I think it's complete hypocrisy that there are so many people here commenting about how the teacher went too far and the government has no right. Yes they absolutely do! YOUR CHILD'S TEACHER CARES ENOUGH TO INSTILL THE CORRECT FOOD CHOICES!


This is the second instance of which I've heard of a teacher inserting him/herself in the way of a child's lunch. Over the weekend, my friend told me a similar story about how she included a low-sugar fruit juice in her daughter's lunch. Her preschool refused to let the child drink the juice her mom packed because of (they assumed) it had a high sugar content. In fact, the juice from home had less sugar than the fruit juice provided at the preschool!

This lunch "policing" is outrageous. Yes, we have an obesity epidemic in the country that needs to be addressed, but that doesn't mean it's anyone else's job other than a parent to teach their child proper nutrition (or for that parent to enlist professional help to teach them proper nutrition if they're unsure). We need to EDUCATE families about how to live a healthy lifestyle, not legislate and dictate it. This completely infringes on our freedom of choice and it's just plain wrong.


I must disagree with Christi. Shame on the teacher for trying to dictate what your child eats. This is YOUR job. If the teacher has a problem with what you pack in your child's lunch, she should contact you to discuss it. The child should not have been punished in any way. He was eating the lunch his mother packed. I would definitely call the teacher and discuss this with her. No need to go higher.


For the record, I'm not advocating sending your kid to school with low-nutrition food. I've spent my adult life avoiding sugary, low-value foods in favor of high-nutrient, whole foods. My young family, my husband and I live healthy, active lifestyles. This mom knows that a twinkie isn't an ideal choice for a snack. She admitted that she discovered there was more to the story. Clearly this was a one-time thing. Come on moms, let's be honest . . . haven't we all been in a bind like this when we had to choose between nothing or an indulgent snack?

She didn't overact at all, she simply wanted to understand and get to the bottom of why her son was denied recess (the teacher couldn't come up with a better response?). That's what responsible parents do. We know being a teacher is a challenging job (kind of like parenting, right??). But teachers, just like parents, sometimes make poor judgments too and this is one of them. This teacher should've sent a note home or called the mom, and then they could've worked together to set the record straight.


I would ask this: were you told no sugary snacks like twinkles? I can understand someone not wanting to deal with a kid hyped up on sugar (especially since there are other kids to have to look after) but unless they previously told you no sugary snacks, it is not right to tell him to not eat it. Or at the very least, take the time to make sure he heard & understood. You'll probably never know for sure if your kid didn't hear or ignored. I know kids are notorious for mishearing or ignoring by adults don't always make sure they hear or understand.


Why all the outrage over banning twinkies in school? Why do you think the government should not try to help parents teach children about nutrition? Knowledge about nutrtion will be alot more useful to them in the future than, say knowledge about the planets and dinosaurs and alot of the other stuff that kids are taught! And I agree that if children eat healthy at school it makes it easier to teach them reading , writing and arithmetic!! Do parents not realize that foods such as twinkies are the cause of heart disease, cancer, Alzheimer's, strokes, kidney failure and a whole bunch of other horrible things that I am sure you do not want to happen to your children? And I am sure all these parents will expect the government to help pay for the bypass surgery their kids are going to need in 40 years, but heaven forbid they are asked to eat their twinkies at home! Send your kids to private school and make your own rules if you are so obsessed with malnurishing your kids.

Kathy S

The teacher has no right to dictate what you feed your child. They can make suggestions I feel. My 4th grade daughter's teacher asked us to bring healthy snacks. But shame on you for even buying a Twinkie! Ick!

Mrs. Smith

The number of comments here is unbelievable, but here goes mine too...I believe the teacher could have asked whether there was a healthier snack he could choose, thereby encouraging healthy choices. I do not believe he may summarily prohibit him from eating the snack. That said, my 8 year old came home one day, saying he is not allowed to pack caprisun as a drink...there the Principal had a problem with caprisun juice pouches...I instead packed him the 100% juice version and after a while I was back to packing whatever I had...I guess the Principal moved his attention to "prohibiting" something else...It has to be tough being a teacher, so please remember that they too are only human and may sometimes not make the "healthiest" choice in what to allow and what not.


The teacher and school are both wrong in this situation.

1. The teacher should have substituted an alternate snack and written a note to explain why the substituion was made.
2. A school and teacher may know that a child is on government-paid breakfasts and lunches. Teachers: Do you need to have the cafeteria bring snacks in for those students?
3. Even if the parents do not qualify for paid breakfast and lunch, there is no excuse to blame a child for a parent's doing. How many months did that teacher feed her or his stomach with Ramen (very high in sodium AND unhealthy) noodles while they were in school? How is a teacher to know if a parent is out of work? THE TEACHER NEEDS TO BETTER UNDERSTAND HOW FINANCIAL AND FAMILIAL DYNAMICS WORK!!!!
4. Why did the child did not hear the teacher? Too much noise? Too distracted by fellow classmates? Is there a health issue involved here that has not been discovered?

My opinion: The parents need to have a sit-down meeting with the principal and teacher. The teacher may get defensive, and the principal may defend the teacher, but the parents will be letting the school know that inconsiderate actions taken upon their child will not be tolerated.

A school volunteer, parent, and grandparent.


The people who are supporting that the teacher has a right to regulate what your child eats, beyond what is regulated by the school (i.e. peanuts and other allergens that could harm another child inadvertantly), are just scary to me. I can see if the teacher asked your son to eat the healthy snacks first. We can support and encourage teachers to do that which will help us teach our children healthy habits. I can also see the teacher meeting out a punishment if your son directly disobeyed a class rule with impunity (which, I have to say, it really doesn't sound like that is what happened here). So, if the teacher has class rules about eating the healthy foods in your lunch box first and you break that rule more than twice, you lose recess - but once and maybe the child just didn't hear him?? C'mon! That's abusive.


I have worked as a lunch room supervisor for two years and have seen many questionable things being sent in kids lunches. However, I also question the thought behind some of the school lunches being served. Nonetheless, as a school employee, it was not my business to question what the kids were eating, just make sure they were eating it. It is the school's job to teach our children, not regulate eating habits. If healthy eating is a part of the curriculum, then by all means teach it, but let the parent's know it is a part of the curriculum and provide alternate suggestions. It is not the school's job to combat childhood obesity, that is the parent's job. The principle of our school sent out a notice the beginning of the year regarding Birthday treats. Although this was not a policy, it was a list of alternative "healthy" birthday treat suggestions other then the usual cupcakes, cookies, etc. All good suggestions, however, when it comes down to it, time and convenience will reign over healthy in most cases.


Unless it is a violation of a formal school policy for some reason for him not to have a Twinkie, then the teacher is in the wrong and simply being a bully not allowing him to go to recess, or eat the Twinkie for that matter. The matter should be brought up with the school principle, with the possibility of disciplinary action taken against the teacher.


I can't believe anyone even has Twinkies sitting around their house anymore, and why would you give that to your kid? Shouldn't the piece of fruit and the granola cover his snacking needs? I don't understand why I see parents letting their toddlers stuff their faces crackers and other food that has zero nutritional value. This is a serious epidemic, it's nice to know that a teacher actually cares.

Stacey S

This is such a hot button from "Don't tell me what to feed my kid" to "how could you feed your kid that" to "the Twinkie was just part of the story". Communication-that's the problem. The blogger was right to inquire about the loss of recess. I disagree with loss of recess as a punishment, especially for a sugar-snack offense! I wish teachers, of elementary school kids would simply send a note home if there are dietary questions. That age group still needs some supervision at home even if they pack their own lunches and snacks. My son likes sweets in moderation, but prefers carrots, pickles, cucumbers....once he had dental work (has 0 cavities, but a bite problem) that prevented chewing anything crunchy for a couple weeks--I was limited to soft things like a Gogurt, cheese, peeled cucumber, homemade tomato soup and juice-sweetened fruit cup. He was upset when a teacher remarked "That's alot of sweets" I told him next time to tell the adult--"my mom packed my lunch, You'll have to talk to her. or have the school nurse call her."


I appreciate that the teacher might not want a child eating Twinkies, this seems to have been handled badly. If the teacher had a "no junk food" policy, why wasn't Mom aware? She nearly always sends a healthy snack anyway; why wasn't the teacher knowledgeable about that? If a child had a particularly bad snack available (I've known elementary kids go to school consistently with a full-size candy bar and a soda for lunch) I think the teacher should take the child aside privately and let them know that their food choices need to include healthy foods. Then call the parents and make it very clear what is expected and what the possible consequences are. Repeat offenses could be handled differently, but keeping a kid in from recess is always a bad idea. I know it is an easy punishment, but kids need fresh air and a chance to blow off steam in order to focus during the long school day. Those who commented about Mom not caring enough to shop or cook properly--wow! You must be a much better person than the rest of us (but you clearly already know that).


Some schools have rules about what kind of snacks can be had. It seems from your story that the teacher asked him not to eat it, mind you could have been for any number of reasons (ie. not time to eat, he didn't finish his work, needed to wash his hands). Your child may have lost recess because he didn't follow the rules and not because the type of snack. Nonetheless, you should find out if it was the Twinkie or the "not hearing" that caused the loss and go from there


I believe that school has a right to ask for healthy snacks (with all the obesity going around in the country that's the least they can do), but they should not punish a child for it. They should have sent a note home explaining the wrongdoing for the parent. My school told me from the beginning that unhealthy snacks will not be allowed to be eaten by kids. I might disagree, but at least they told me that it is the case.


I was shocked as I read this piece. I was surprised by one of the responses too. My immediate reaction was "no, they have no right" but after reading a comment that initially ticked me off, I realized there is an obvious middle ground.

One of the commenters was very pro-teacher governing what your kids eat because it shows they care(?) I think they have no right if the parent is responsible for packing the lunch. What if unhealthy snacks were all you had packed for him? Would the teacher then allow your child to starve? I think if the school is providing all meals that are being consumed on campus, and there is enough healthy variety that no one can really complain about there not being anything they like to eat (unless they only eat unhealthy food, in which case, they will learn to adapt and be healthier because of it... Hopefully.) Then the school can dictate it. But when a parent packs a lunch for their child and the school is not offering an alternative... Well, I say shame. I think the school should either provide the meals they want the children eating, or not be allowed to judge and condemn a child for what their parents are packing for them.
That is all.

Rachel Winograd

Unless your child was eating the snack sometime other than during the designated snack time or lunch time, or someplace other than at the designated eating areas, there's no good reason he should have been punished for eating a Twinkie. If the teacher has designated his classroom as a "sugar free"/"health food" only zone, he needs to communicate this with the parents. And he certainly shouldn't punish the child by taking away recess on the grounds of establishing "healthy" habits. Barring a child from recess under the pretense of establishing "healthy" habits is super hypocritical if you are taking the child away from one of the only physical moments in his day when he gets to get away from his desk and exercise and get the blood flowing back to his brain! Also, consider this---most food found in American school cafeteria lunches are just as processed as a Twinkie. Full of fat, sugar, and salt.


I had to add something else after reading more comments.
Other parents and professional teachers have the nerve to sit there and freak out over this and blame YOU?
I think a lot of commenters need to reread what the actual blog was saying, because you by no means "flipped out" as a lot are suggesting.

Another thing that bothered me was the hypocrisy and complete lack of professionalism of so many who commented. They are getting worked up for NO REASON.

In ***this*** particular situation, it appears the teacher was in the wrong and a confused and concerned mother did the obvious follow-up in a non-judgmental and appropriate way.

This does not mean you were a horrible mother for a one-time offense of giving your child a Twinkie.
This does not mean the teacher is a horrible being for this (hopefully) one-time offense of punishment without any prior warnings and no communication with the parent prior to the punishment being administered.

I think there are a few details not being added to the piece that you may not even know the information on that would make a slight difference in the arguments of those being voiced, but ultimately, they are mostly arguing about separate issues than the one being presented to them.

The problem was lack of communication, not lack of respect or being too fanatical or too.... chronically unhealthy.

I think a lot of people are getting worked up because of personal experiences that are not what this is even about. Yes, if it must be said a thousand times, there is an obesity problem in this nation. Whose job is it to handle? Well, the individual's. Unless they cannot make their own food (I.e. too inexperienced/young or disabled in a way that they cannot cook because of). I believe that everyone wants everyone to be healthy and happy and I believe that this is where people start butting heads, which is odd since it is common ground, but I digress.

Teachers are concerned about their ability to teach properly when a child is taunting the other children with their sweets while others suck on carrots or a kid is so hyped up on sugar they cannot sit still. It isn't fair to the teacher. Point taken.

Parents are concerned that there are people (I.e. teachers and school boards or government) trying to control their children when they clearly have no right to an individual's body and what goes in it (though maybe it really is not that clear, as with the whole abortion/women'd rights issue this political season), anyways, point taken there too.

Unhealthy snacks are no good, we all get that. POINT, taken. Good grief.

Everyone seems to be arguing about a point that, while valid as a point in general, has no merit to this particular thread. This is about one specific issue that was addressed already.

Anyways, I have put in my two cents, that is really all I was thinking about while reading all the comments.

Hope the rest of you have a non-judgey day full of love and laughter...

Kate Blake

I agree with most people that the teacher overstepped his bounds. At the same time, I just want to emphasize that Twinkies are more than just "junk food" - they are basically poison for the body. Filled with preservatives and high fructose corn syrup - snacks like these can have a long term affect on your son's health and can lead to things such as diabetes and cancer in the future. I'm not trying to be extreme - these are many studies confirming this very thing. Oh, and one of the ingredients in twinkies is "beef fat" - how gross is that? If you're interested in more info, I'd recommend the following documentaries (you can find them on Netflix instant play):

- Forks over Knives
- Hungry for Change
- Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead

Autumn Frenchman

That stinks! I'm an experienced, teacher and mommy if two daughters, 9 & 11.

Both of my daughters were going without food and hungry, after lunch, for 3 hours, until dismissal. Then, specialists educators like art and music wondered how some days they were into "it" and some days, not.

I'm laughing out loud. Firstly, when your child has no issues at home or school with sugars and behavior, there should be no problem. Second, punitive punishment (missing recess), over a Twinkie, should be definitely called into question. When there is no defiant wording or aggressiveness by a child, the teacher has the "Twinkie" issue.

For your son, an 8 year old child to sit for recess, and he was demoralized and degraded over eating something he liked, which didn't cause harm happens to be a BIG deal. Verbal, physical, emotional and teacher bullying should be addressed, or it will happen to your son or another. This is the HOW of the safety of our children. Head it on, and move it out. 8 years old, not 18 or 28, but 8. Bullying begins the process of disasters. Have we not gone through enough? "Think he won't remember, believe you know all that was said, and hope that more damage is not done as he grows, and does something 'really' on purpose."


No of course the teacher should not have governed what your son was eating. However, I think your asking the wrong question.. More importantly, why are you feeding your growing boy twinkies? This is the reflection we as a society need to think about as diabetes and obesity have pledged our children.
Btw, it will take much more than one recess to work off a Twinkie.


I do not believe the schools have any right to decide what my child eats. I am a mother of 2 picky eaters, and every time I try to pack a "healthy snack" for them, they end up bringing home a full lunch box. I'd rather they eat something, than nothing at all.
Also, our school has a rule that kids cannot bring cake or any sweets to school for their birthdays, yet, every time they want to raise money for school trips, playground equipment, etc., they have a bake sale with countless cookies, cupcakes and unhealthy foods. Quite the double standard...


Teacher oversteps bounds and, in doing so, sets up three separate power struggles:
- between teacher and parent (who decides on appropriate snack)
- between teacher and child (can I still eat it if the teacher said not to)
- between child and parent (do I have to listen to what my mother told me to do).

The school has a right to impose rules on snacks. If the Twinkie is not within the rules, then you confiscate the Twinkie and return it when it is time to go home. If the Twinkie was within the rules (peanut-free, etc), then the Twinkie is OK. If the teacher has a problem with the Twinkie (or more likely, with the rules), then the teacher can call you (the parent) and have a rational discussion about why he thinks this is a problem and request that you not send in Twinkies in the future. Banning an 8-year-old from eating what his mother sent in for a snack simply puts the child in the middle of a power struggle. It is NOT the responsibility of an 8-year-old child to figure out whether to listen to his mother or his teacher.

I hear the comments about how the child is going to act out later because of the "sugar high". Maybe he will, maybe he won't. If he does, the teacher is ABSOLUTELY within his rights to punish the behavior - and to point out that the Twinkie might have had something to do with his behavior - but you cannot preemptively punish someone for doing something that might lead them to do something else that might cause problems later.

Kim B

Please follow up with an answer to the questions asked. WHY didn't the teacher want him to eat it?? I don't believe there should be strict enforcement of snacks and punishment for children because a parent sends in what they have. We have probably all been there on one level or another. I can understand not wanting children to be loaded up with sugar because it creates behavior issues but realistically this should never be an issue. So I'm anxiously awaiting your response to the questions. THANKS!

Another Mom

I think it depends. My daughter's school always had a no candy policy. It was mainly based on the age of the kids and the fact that if one child brought candy they all wanted candy and it disrupted the classroom. If the school has expressed this rule and they put a twinkie in the same category, then they definitely have the right to ask your child to bypass that part of his snack, especially since he had 2 other options to chose from. Although we have the right to feed our kids however we want, when we put them in someone else's care, we have to give up some control. Just like you must tolerate grandma's way of raising your child when she babysits, you have to accept the teacher's rules when s/he is in charge.

Linda aka: The Twinkie Mom!

Wow! I’m really surprised by all the comments on my story! I appreciate the negative ones as much as the supportive ones. Hearing so many different views is very interesting. I know, by writing the blog, I put myself out there for judgment, so in some regards I was ready to be flogged for making the poor decision of sending my son to school with a Twinkie.

I wanted to respectfully follow-up on the many questions that were left unanswered in my initial story. I’m not hoping to change anyone’s point of view, they are all legitimate concerns and I am thankful that so many people took the time to even comment in the first place.

So, here goes…
Yes, it was snack time. I pack my son 3 snacks every day. These snacks are to be divvied up between snack time in the classroom and afterschool care. I leave it up to him to eat whichever snack he feels like at the time. The teacher’s response to my request for clarity was that he told my son he was not allowed to eat the Twinkie in class. Nicholas said he didn't hear the teacher tell him that and he ate the Twinkie. Whether it was miscommunication or defiance, I’ll never know!

I don’t typically send options such as Twinkies but I really was lacking the choices at home that particular day. I saw my husband’s stash of golden cakes and figured my son would like the treat. There were no official snack rules sent home at any time, and although it wouldn’t have been my normal choice to do so, I put the Twinkie in the bag figuring it couldn’t hurt to do that now and then.

There are some very good points about the obesity problem in our society. I like to think I infuse a healthy balance of nutritious foods, fun foods (i.e. junk!), sports, exercise and yes, even video games. My son is a very active, very healthy and a very happy boy.

I hope I was able to provide the missing details for those interested in hearing them. I’m not the perfect Mom…is there such thing? I’ve learned my lesson and I make sure I always have enough healthy choices to pack for snack time! I don’t consider it defeat or giving in, it’s just a matter that, in the end, has my son eating healthy all the time instead of most of the time :). And, by writing this blog I’ve also learned that no matter what drives the opinions, fuels the passions and motivates the judgments in all directions, the bottom line is WE LOVE OUR KIDS! Thank you kindly for your responses and for caring enough to do so! Linda


The child ate it (not hearing the teacher) thus it got him in trouble. Was he punishing the child because of the snack or because he didnt hear him? If it was because of the snack choice, then that is wrong. It was not the childs fault. If he was punishing him because he disobeyed, well then thats another story. The question remains. Do teachers have a right to decide what parents choose to feed their children?


If parents don't like what schools say about what kinds of snacks kids can eat, home school them. Many schools have snack policies. It is not a big deal. It is not a school "dictating" what parents should do any more than a school requiring .certain writing utensils or notebooks. There is no government conspiracy. Really folks. Relax.


Linda, don't apologize for giving your son a special treat or label it as a "bad" snack. Do we omit birthday cakes and ice cream because those things are "bad"? It's these little nods and winks to your child that says you love him. Would it be different if you put a note in the lunchbox with the Twinkie that said "A Twinkie for the twinkle of my eye. Love, Mom" or some other note indicating it was a "special" snack? YOu provided two other healthier choices. It all balances out in the end, especially if your son is physically active. Don't sweat it. Really.


If the teacher said not to eat it and the child ate it, then it seems appropriate that he was disciplined for doing what he was told not to do. But, I think this could have been handled much better by the teacher contacting you as the parent sending the snack and ask you to no longer send it with an explanation of why. I agree with the others that have said the teacher has a right to a say in the food that can effect the child's behavior while in class. But I think communication with you as the parent should have been the first step. Our neighbors 7 year old daughter was denied her recess because her parents forgot to send in a form that they were supposed to read and sign, all things that were out of the child's control.


My high schooler was forced to purchase a fruit along with the rest of his meal. The fruit was extra, therefor I don't think he should have to pay for it, it should be included in the lunch.

Mike Clark

My oldest son went to a Waldorf kindergarten about 30 years ago, where it was forbidden to have a lunchbox with any cartoon or tv character displayed. I spent about half a day searching and finally came up with a lunchbox that said "thermos". He was later in a public elementary school class where a teacher punished rowdy children by making them stay in from recess, and rewarded good behavior with candy. Great for hyperactivity!

It can be hard to separate in our minds the slippery slope of protecting individual rights (children's health and safety) versus individual freedoms (parents' rights), when confronted with the decisions made by individual moral fanatics and borderline idiots in positions of small power over our daily lives.

Should parents be allowed to smoke in cars with children present? My parents did 60 years ago. Should children be spanked? Once commonplace. Should men beat their wives? That is now a crime, and a heinous one at that....and yet these negative cultural habits persist.

Good luck coming up with a solution to this issue!


I think the key is that there is no snack policy. It's one thing if the school had a formal (or even informal) policy about what you can send in for snack. But apparently there was none. In that case, the teacher should not have told your son not to eat the Twinkie. He could have said "How about having the healthy snack now and saving the Twinkie for later?" or something like that.

I'd be curious about the teacher's rationale for prohibiting it. Was it health-related? Classroom equity? The need to preserve a dying brand? ;-)

On a separate note, I found it interesting that even though you clearly use the words "he" and "him" with regard to the teacher, many posters still assumed the teacher was a woman.


By the way, with respect to sugar and children acting up, here's an interesting read:



Several things pop into my head when I read this as well as some of the other posts.
1.Sometimes you have to let the child choose and begin to make choices for themselves. When doing this you need to explain why certain choices are good and others are not so good.
2.If the parent doesn't want the child eating something then they don't pack it.
3.If other choices were presented then why send the twinkie?
4.The child should not have been punished for eating what the parent provided.
5.If the twinkie was the only snack provided would the school refuse the child the opportunity to eat? Or would they provide something from the cafeteria?

There are other things that I would like to say but I am going with my better judgment in keeping them unsaid. In short, the parent is the parent for a reason. I understand that teachers are responsible for keeping policy (if this was truly the issue) but how about a heads up before any drastic actions are taken. How about a note next time?


Our school has something they call "fun lunch". Part of fun lunch is yogurt. I was at school the 2 times my child had "fun lunch" and was bouncing off the walls. Turns out the yogurt in question was Trix brand, which at the time was loaded with sugar. I complained and was completely blown off.

They also attempt to teach the kids to eat healthy snacks. At home one night my child was really getting upset because he wanted nacho's but was told it wasn't a healthy snack. The kid was getting upset about this. Is it worth twisting kids into knots about eating.

I can give you story after story of school messing with my kids eating habits and causing all kinds of emotional issues over it. That's the kind of stuff that causes eating disorders. I've had to ask them to back off.

When given a choice my kids usually choose something healthy just because they like it.


Nope, the parents have the absolute right to decide what THEIR child brings to school, as long as it does NOT endanger the child. If a child has mostly healthy (fruit/veggie) snacks, a sugary treat is their decision and will not cause death or obesity. Extremes never help anything. Water and exercise after snacks of any kind can only help. C'mon people, we are going way too far here. MODERATION IN ANYTHING IS THE ANSWER!


I have a somewhat similar situation. My son's school has sent home a letter stating that snacks are no longer allowed to be sent with them to Kindergarten. They have two sessions. 8-noon and 10-2. My son is in the later session. The kicker is that they do not have lunch either. Their reasoning is that they only get 15 for recess which is also their "PE" time and this time should be used for playing and not eating and it is also suppose to prep them for 1st grade. 1st graders do get a lunch break though because they are full day from 8-3. 4 hours seems like a long time for little ones to have to go without food. Plus they are state testing at this time. We are in California. Anyone have any advice? Thank you!


HI, my son is 5 years old and I recently had a problem similar to this. My son doesn't like to eat a school but I don't mind because he has a really good breakfast before leaving and I send him a snack for lunch (which is a 10 am, and he practically just ate so he's still full) and he eats again at 2 pm when I pick him up. Last year his teachers had absolutely no problem with this, its not like I'm starving my child he's not malnourished. During the first week of school this year his teacher has been forcing him to eat! And on friday his aunt picked him up and the crazy teacher screamed at her and told her that HE HAD TO EAT and not just a snack! Can she do this? is it a law that my son has to eat lunch at school? somebody please help me. I'm having a meeting with the teacher and I'm trying to find laws that support her but there's none. Can somebody help me?
- Thank you


I just don't understand this - why a parent would want to "exercise their parental rights" in such a way? Really? You're angry that a school/teacher is fostering healthy eating habits? Say that out loud and see how silly it sounds. "I should be able to feed my child Twinkies if I want to". Do I agree with your child losing recess over it? No, I don't - and if that's what this post is about, then I agree with you. BUT, so many people are making it about parental rights and those "crazy teachers" and "dictatorships". Save those "special snacks" for home - is it so hard to embrace the notion that school is about LEARNING & ACADEMICS - NOT about Twinkies and cupcakes? Teachers don't try to cook up ways to make your lives more difficult, they don't have it "out for you", they don't think they are your child's parent - they are simply trying to make each child's learning environment the best that they can, and trust me, sugar does not help them meet that goal. You're no dummy, you know that in your heart-of-hearts but for some reason so many people choose to exercise their parental rights at the most interesting of times.


I just experienced this with my 5 year old today. It was snack time and my husband packed our 5 year old a cupcake. After school he got into the car sad and said his teacher would not allow him to eat it. He also lost the straw to his chocolate milk of which she couldn't even help him open it! So my husband went right away and asked her why she didn't allow him. The teacher stated that she didn't want to hear 18 other children complaining that they didn't have a snack. Also, that she wants healthy snacks. So instead our 5 year old sat watching everyone else eat and drink while he had NOTHING!! I want to also add just the day before I got told not to pack so many cookies in his lunch, because he is sharing them with his friends and they are not allowed to do that for the fact not everyone was getting a cookie. Even though they were his friends he sat with at his lunch table!! He also was having a hard time in learning in October and instead of offering him to receive extra help she just said if she had to make a decision at that moment she would fail our son!! This lady really shouldn't even be teaching. We are awaiting a conference with the principal. My son is not even close to being overweight and even if he were bigger it is my son and my choice. Not to physically slam the teacher appearance, but she however is on the overweight side and I'm sure nobody is taking her snacks away. My husband and I are so disgusted what happened today!

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