A recent topic on our Working Mom Message Board was from a mom who has a very "social" au pair. Meaning, she has a blog and is active on social media outlets.
And this mom is (understandably) concerned. Wouldn't you be?
As a parent, you don't know who is reading, following, sharing...lurking. You feel out of control.
I know one mom who "friended" her favorite babysitter and found pictures of her 1-year old son all over her wall. And comments. People she didn’t know knew her son and wanted to "pinch his cheeks" again. She said it was weird, but she was okay with it. She figured, it was her part-time nanny, someone she used a few days a week until they got off a daycare waitlist, someone they trusted. But she also asked that the status updates only include past details – not sharing where they were currently playing or going to visit. And no "Checking In."
Most everyone uses Social Media these days, and your nanny is bound to want to read and post things throughout the day. But here's what you should consider doing to protect your family's privacy. You also have to "friend," "follow" and subscribe to her reports. She may not be comfortable with you seeing her weekend activities or late nights with her friends and if she's not, set some rules and put them in your nanny contract to make sure they are clear.
- Ask her to turn off location recognition that reveals the town she is posting from. This is not just on Facebook, but most social media sites.
- If you are okay with her posting pictures of your child, ask her not to tag you in them, and make sure they are not posted when she/he is still in that location.
- Change post settings so they can only be seen by his or her Friends, not Friends of Friends.
- No names of your children should be revealed.
- The area/location of your house should never be shared.
- No blog discussions about your family.
- No "Checking In."
Now, I have to admit, I post pictures of my kids all the time. It's how I connect to family across the country. Most parents I know do. But as the parents, we feel like we have control of that situation -- even if we really don't.
Tell me, are you friends with your sitters and nanny on Facebook? What are your social media rules?