The nanny cam topic started buzzing on our Working Mom message board recently. And guess what? Most people commenting either had a camera installed – or were looking to buy one. I was shocked.

It's not that I don't understand why people have them. There is someone in your house – with your most prized possession -- your kids. It's hard to trust people sometimes, no matter how many background checks you've run or references you've checked. This isn't something you want to take a chance on.

But I'd never do it.

I believe in trust and open communication. I believe in creating a dialogue with a nanny and letting him or her know you are partners in caring for your child. I believe that if someone doesn't feel right, if the kids aren't responding well to the nanny or if the ideas and projects the nanny said she'd do with kids aren't being produced - then it's time to move on. I believe your instinct will tell you more than a camera will.

But if you have a nanny cam, or feel strongly about getting one before you hire a nanny, please be upfront about it. Think about it this way: You are starting a relationship that should be built around trust and openness. While this person should be constantly proving themselves to you, there should always be a level of respect and appreciation for their work. Hiding a nanny cam does not send this message (they can often be found).

Instead, let your nanny know that you've installed security cameras in the house. It's up to them if they are comfortable with this or not. At least you've been upfront.

Just don't lower your radar because you have a camera. Nothing trumps the power of a strong gut feeling.

By now, you’ve probably seen the TIME magazine cover featuring a mom breastfeeding her preschool-aged son. It's attention-grabbing… to say the least.

While my first instinct is shock and pity for the future teenage boy who will never live this cover down, I do see the beauty in a mother’s ability to provide food and nourishment for her child – while creating an intense bond. But doing so on the cover of a national magazine seems to objectify the natural sweetness of a tender moment.

But here's what I'm really sick of. I can't take the Mommy Wars anymore. And by asking their audience "Are You Mom Enough?," the TIME editors seem to be feeding into women’s insecurities – which is exactly what gives magazines a bad name. They are pitting moms against each other, when we should be working together as mothers who are inspiring and building the next generation.

Attachment Moms, Working Moms, Stay at Home Moms, Permissive Moms, Tiger Moms, Helicopter Moms… let’s take a stand. Let’s agree to disagree. We all want the same thing. We are working to create well cared for, kind, loving, hard-working children. We want strong relationships with our kids. We want them to respect their elders, say "thank you" to strangers, and give seniors an extra hand. We all want them to feel loved and grow up to give this love in return. We want them to be strong and confident, but listen and learn from an opposing viewpoint. And we want them to know how much we love them.

So whether you breastfeed, co-sleep, wear a sling or push a carriage; whether you work, stay at home, have a nanny, home school, or spank, I am promising that I won't judge you. I won’t judge because I know you are just trying to do your best. We’re in this together. And if we tear each other down, we’re just wasting too much energy. Energy that we could spend on our families.

How does this TIME cover make you feel? What does it mean to be "Mom Enough" in your eyes?