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April 09, 2012



I think that weight watcher mom is emotionally abusive, period. That young girl will never grow up healthy, she will be insecure and have a horrible horrible time. Also, I am a dance teacher and often very very chubby young girls end up becoming long lean teenagers without doing anything, so, the whole concept is rediculous and against everything that I believe. Here is a dance piece that I choreographed about body image.


It is hard to hear the words in this video, but, they are important. These are all teenagers and these statements come directly from them.


IT honestly starts with the parents. For years I only ate salads with carrot and cucumbers and that was the only veggies I was eating. Once I had a kid I knew I had to eat more veggies b/c I didn't want to be the parent that says eat your veggies and I'm not even eating them! So I started forcing myself to eat them even if it was a teaspoonful size. Both my kids love veggies and I've even learned to enjoy eating them too. It starts with the parents just like exercising which is definitely not my strong point but I'm getting there

A Nurse

Many people think that a 7 year old will "grow out of" the "baby fat", but the reality is obese 7 year olds are obese teens and obese adults. More and more research is showing that overweight in infancy predisposes one to obesity. I havent read the article, but if this parent used the opportunity to improve the childs eating habits, introduce new foods, learn to read labels...etc, and if the entire family participated (or at least Mom) she's on the right track. I think we can all agree that weight has become more of a civil rights issue than a health one! Parents are very offended if you tell them their child is overweight. (And thats the word we use because 'obese'- the clinically appropriate term- elicits an even more defensive reaction). I think this is primarily because so many obese kids have obese parents


I've always tried to offer a variety of vegetables and fruit to my kids, even ones I don't like! Like Sheila, we're trying to teach them about making good choices! We have our struggles with them at times, where I have to tell them to please eat some of their vegetables, but I also try to incorporate vegetables into our dishes like spaghetti with meat sauce and spinach, zucchini and bell peppers. My daughter hates salad but will grab leaves of lettuce and red bell peppers and just munch on them, so I give her deconstructed salads with no dressing (wish I could eat my salads without freezing!). We also are trying to make physical activity just part of life! We try to walk almost every where we can! Both of my kids are in Tae Kwon Do through their school and we try to get them to do one activity outside of school that is physical.
Life is about balance and that's what we are trying to teach our kids! My husband and I both had an extra 15-30 pounds that we just couldn't seem to lose or we'd start to lose and then gain it back. A couple months ago, we signed up for kickboxing classes together and take our kids. They watch, play games or read while we get a great hour long workout! They notice that we are losing weight but I try to emphasize how much healthier and stronger I feel now!
If either of them had to lose weight, I'd try to focus on the fact that we are getting healthier and we would do it together as a family! Humiliating a child does no good! I have a cousin whose family would call him fat to try to get him to lose weight and wouldn't allow any sweets in the house. It would work at times but then he'd put it all back on and then some. They'd also find candy and food wrappers stuffed under his mattress. Instead of teaching him to have a healthy relationship with food, they taught him it was shameful and to hide.


I think that healthy eating is actually normal eating - and while I applaud the effort to eat smoothies etc., I think that just not eating junk is more than good enough. The more complex you make it, the harder it gets to follow it. Just don't eat processed food in large amounts, eat your fruits and veg. Be active. We make it harder than it has to be.


The mother in that article is obviously anorexic. The sad thing is, and this has been proven time and time again, the more you restrict calories, the more difficult weight issues become. She is ruining that child's metabolism.

I don't restrict calories. At all. My kids can eat as much as they want, provided its wholesome food. I do not allow refined foods, but they are certainly allowed to put whole cane sugar or maple syrup on their cereal. Both my kids consume a ton of calories daily. Probably more than I do, and they are both thin as a rail! But their foods are not doughnuts and refined pizzas. It's homemade versions of those and so much more.


I grew up as a "chubby kid". I ate larger portions of food than most kids my age and had a very big appetite. I was also in dance (tap, jazz and ballet), tennis, softball, volleyball, basketball and was a very active kid outdoors and swam constantly in the summer. The portions of food I ate as a young child were all healthy food options (my mom did not allow a lot of sweets or junk food). Looking back at pictures, I see a very different little girl than what I remember. The reality is, I was much more muscular than other kids my age (which probably had a lot to do with the numbers on the scale) and I developed much faster than other girls, starting as early as fourth grade. I can't help but wonder if the constant attention and ridicule of my weight as a young child and the effect of this ridicule on my self-esteem contributed to my weight problems as a teen and an adult. I still find myself excusing poor food decisions with the excuse "I'm a grown up now, I can do what I want" now that my parents are not there to constantly berate me for what I choose to put in my mouth. I have a three-year old little girl. She is by no means overweight or chubby, but already has the round bottom and thick muscles I had as a young girl. I encourage her to eat a wide range of foods and limit sweets because of the effects on her teeth. I smile when she chooses playtime that naturally involves excersise, and I will encourage her to continue such activities, embracing the strong muscular body God gifted her with, regardless of what the numbers say on the scale.


That article was ridiculous (I mean Weight Watchers). Another confused, insecure parent selling their illness and family dysfunction in front of a crowd.

I take healthy eating very seriously. We don't snack between meals except fruit, veggies and nuts, we eat balanced meals, almost NO fast food. On the other hand we never have to clear our plates, and second helpings are on demand.

I'm not trying to lose or even maintain--I just think we need to keep a healthy attitude towards food and eat to live, not live to eat.

My kids have never heard the words "diet" or "weight loss" and they are not overweight.

It is totally possible to bring food into one's life in a context of gratefulness, celebration, and nutrition while eating healthy. It does take some thought and self-control. ("If you're really hungry, you'll eat the leftover broccoli platter... no? Okay, you're probably bored. Go play.")

Humiliation, however, is never necessary.


Wow. I don't keep up with the news but this came through my email and caught my eye. I am a registered dietitian/nutritionist and I just have to say that the following is not only my opinion but also the stance of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics (formerly the American Dietetic Association). The goal is never to have a child (especially preteen) to lose weight and I would never advise such a thing. The process with children is to temporarily stop or at least slow weight gain and they will grow into their weight. I think it's awful that a mother would do that and yes, I believe there will be long lasting psychological issues for the rest of her life. It's so sad. :(.


I diet but because of health issues, losing weight is just a great side effect...and I teach my kids to make healthy choices... They know that McDonalds and donuts are bad, but it's ok to have them once in a while... Kids are not supposed to diet or even fast during religious holidays... Their growing bodies need calories...
For healthy start in life try breast feeding kids, US has one of the lowest breast feeding rates...


My heart breaks for that young girl. I am a mother of three and basically my theory is talk to your kids about nutrition and model the behavior you hope to inspire. Teach kids how to cook and how to read labels---understand serving sizes. When my kids were young we had a "veggie of the week" as a way to get them to try veggies and new recipes. They would decide which veggie to try and then pick different recipes on how to cook it. We certainly are not perfect but they now (ages 7, 9, 11) have a framework for making good choices for themselves.


This is a very touchy subject for me. My 3 and a half year old daughter has been off the charts on weight and height since she was 6 weeks old. She has a healthy diet (we allow treats in moderation, but they are usually things still on the healthy side.) I think making certain foods forbidden causes more of a problem. But for the most part her meals are normal portions of organic, nutritous foods. She is also quite active. She plays outside everyday and we walk everywhere. Still, she is 50lbs and 42" tall. The pediatrician wants us to go to a healthy weight clinic, noting that since she is this weight now, her chances of being overweight later are high. This makes me crazy, I can't imagine what we can do different short of depriving her in an unfair way. And I don't want to create a complex with her at such a young age. Both my husband and I eat well and are thin). The idea that some kids are just built this way when they are young is not accepted anymore. Although my husband, and his siblings were all like her until they reached middle school. It is sad to know that many people blame the parents when they have an overweight child. I see plenty of skinny kids walking out of McDonalds when my child doesn't even know what McDonalds is. I think growth charts are helpful, but I also think they simply reduce children to a statistic instead of looking at each individual child.


Dr. William Sears said a study of hundreds of teens revealed that teens assume that what parents put on the table is on the table because their parents are keeping them safe by giving them safe foods. Dr. Sears also said that it takes approximately 3 tries before a person acquires the taste of any particular food. So, he recommends putting an ice cube tray full of different healthy vegetables and snacks on the coffee table starting at the toddler years. They eat anything when they are hungry.

My daughter is so obese that her doctor sent her to a class about proper nutrition. I went and we both didn't learn anything new because ours problem is more related to genetics rather the concern for disease related to obesity. We are all super healthy eaters. My grandmother and my inlaws are very obese, but the all lived to a ripe age of 90 without any major diseases. In fact, all their brothers and sisters were the same. They all had something in common. They ate very little sugar. I was taught at a very young age to not eat any candy except we had one each year during Halloween. I assumed that my mom was keeping me safe and she was right. Look what's been going viral on YouTube...

Here's a short CBS news clip on the YouTube videos...the most logical discovery so far regarding the alarming rise in obese children and adults. It turns out the sugar is an actual poison, so fat intake itself is not even close to as bad after all.


I was sick in bed so I also watch the YouTube video as well....it made complete sense.


This seems like disaster in the making to me...the emotional damage being worse than the extra weight. As a health coach, I work with clients and families who want to lose weight and get back energy through diet and lifestyle changes. Sometimes the moms want me to work with their kids and I have to gently remind them that it starts with themselves, learning to embrace the foods that will love them back, crowding out the poor choices, and avoiding deprivation. A lot of it is educating them on how to upgrade their current food choices, shift their mindset about food and how they feel about themselves. So much of it is about self-love!
Same goes for the kids. Kids are very smart and more in touch about what their bodies need. It's a matter of empowering them to make good choices, and having the tools to prepare quick, fun and healthy meals and treats.

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