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October 24, 2011


Kimberly Oneal

I want to say keep up the good work. i am single mother of a 5 year old and have always been a single mother. I broke up with her father while i was pregnant too and I know how hard it is.. But it well worth it and the kids will see how hard you work. Good luck and I love your story...


Hello, Kelsey -
I recently subscribed to Care.com primarily as an additional resource for the families with whom I work. I own a community transition consulting business in Des Moines - a community with abundant resources for young parents, by the way. I'm also the mother of two daughters (ages 26 and 29) and (like you) was the first in my family to graduate from college and (subsequently) from graduate school. I was deeply touched by the story you shared and the grace with which you are coping with your new challenges and opportunities. It sounds like you're building a strong, reliable support "team" for you and Isaac.

While not yet a grandmother, I'm a "surrogate" grandma to the children of several friends as well as a volunteer "cuddler" in a local NICU. I realize that we're total strangers but if (as I'm guessing) you are attending Drake Law School, I would welcome the chance to meet you (perhaps for coffee at Zanzibar's...the best coffee shop in town!). Perhaps my family can help you expand your safety net a bit? You can e-mail me at my business address (debra@strategicrelo.com); my website is www.strategicrelo.com. (This is not a business "pitch" - but rather to reassure you of my bona fides!)

Nonetheless, you are an admirable person, Kelsey - and your son is a very lucky little boy. Don't lose faith in yourself and the life you're working so hard to build.
Warm regards,
Debra Salowitz

Ryan Rickerts

The only real way for a son to know how to be a good father and good man is to be around one. Single motherhood is not admirable, it's an unfortunate circumstance that should be remedied, like table with a missing leg. This will be more important as he becomes older. Take it from a father who, when younger, lost a dad to divorce first at age 6, then moving away for work at age 8, then suicide at age 13. It's made my life a lot more challenging, no matter how 'strong' my mom was. Lofty career ambitions and feminism are not good for children, they just serve women's egos.


Kelsey, I read your story, because my daughter is a single college student, who lives 1200 miles away from home. She lives with her baby's father and his parents are there, and they help them out a lot. She still struggles even with the father being there and a lot of support from his family. She did not have to worry about a sitter as his mother watches the baby. I don't know how you do it but, you are and you can and some how I think you will. Just remember on the tough days - it's just a day - tomorrow will come and change everything. Good luck!!!

Joanna Hetzel

This is a very inspirational story and great article.

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