Since those who care for our loved ones have an important role in our lives, we should tip them well to show our appreciation, reward them, and give them an incentive to continue providing the excellent care we want for our children, parents, and pets.

When do we tip?

When two things are provided to me:

• Personalized service. A waiter taking my specific request from a menu, a cab driver taking me to my chosen location, my hair dresser who cuts my hair that addresses my personalized needs, a clown who came over and entertained all the kids at your child’s birthday party, and etc.
• Great service. Service providers spend time to listen to my needs and are focused on me as a customer. It is my way of saying thank you and also giving someone the incentive to deliver great service next time I'm in need of their help and attention.

Who should I tip?

So many people help us throughout the year. Here are some of the caregivers you might want to tip during the holidays: Nanny, babysitter, au pair, day care staff, coaches, tutors, music and dance instructors, dog walkers and groomers, home-care attendants, housekeepers.

• In general, the more professionally credentialed (certification, license, degree in a specialty) someone is, the less they wanted to be treated as a service professional that gets a tip. I'd err on the side of giving a gift during the Holidays or a special occasion rather than a regular "tip" for their services.


• For a sitter that comes over regularly, you may consider tipping them for a job truly well done, but it isn't the norm for them to expect to get a regular "tip" every time they babysit for you.


• If you have a periodic sitter, such as a teenage babysitter or dog walker, you may want to consider tipping them for each job since they only come over occasionally. They will also feel valued and, with the competitive hiring out there today, it is worth being generous to keep quality care for your loved ones.

How much should I tip care givers and how much should I spend on a gift?

• Restaurants and wait staff: It is common in our culture now to tip for personalized service at about 15% of the typical fees you are charged—even 20% for exceptional service. We do this for restaurant wait staff, cab drivers, etc. I'd apply the same % rule for caregivers.


• Hosting a party at a venue: If you are paying a venue to host a party, but there are service providers assisting you, you should tip them 15% of an estimated $10-$12/hour (depending on years of experience of your service providers) and the number of hours they worked. For example, if you have a child's birthday party at a gym and you bring along two babysitters to help you manage the party, do tip those sitters. Check with the venue when you schedule the party—the charge for rental of the venue may include a gratuity for their staff.


• Workplace gift exchanges and showers: For a gift, most companies that plan gift exchanges over the holidays suggest $20 or $25 gifts for your secret co-worker whose name you pulled out of a hat. For a girlfriend's baby shower, a $25 to $50 gift is typically a nice budget for a cute present. For a gift for our caregivers, I like to give something in between the range of $25-$30 since they take special care of my kids and pets and I want them to feel that I took the time to choose something special for them. Also, sometimes a very inexpensive but personal gift, such as a picture frame with my child's photo on it, goes a long way.


• Recommended tips for care givers:
• Nannies and Au Pairs: If they work for you full time, give a tip that reflects 10%-15% of one weeks pay. For example, if you have a full time Nanny or Au Pair that you pay $800 per week, a 15% holiday tip would be $120.
• Regular babysitter: Depending upon how long your sitter has been with you and how experienced she is, tips range from one or two night's pay or the equivalent of a week of service.
• Coaches, tutors, and instructors: A small gift from your child is perfect, such as a photo of your child playing their musical instrument (for your child’s music instructor).
• Dog walkers and groomers: One to two week’s pay for a dog walker and about half a session’s worth for your regular groomer.
• Home-care attendants: One week's pay is recommended but give two weeks for extra special care or long-term service.

I hope this helps. And again, being generous to the people who provide personalized service for your loved ones means so much when it comes to developing long-term relationships with your care givers.

Cheers,
Sheila