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August 25, 2011

Questions to Ask a Family During a Nanny Interview

What are some questions I can ask the potential clients who are considering me to be their nanny?

      There are so many questions you can ask a potential family, but there are certain ones that I feel are a must.

  • Do you use a nanny contract?
  • What household duties are expected of me? 
  • What are my paid vacation days?
  • Do I get sick days?
  • How do you like to communicate with the nanny throughout the day? Email? Text? Phone calls? Photos?
  • What is the household's views on discipline?
  • Views on TV and electronics in general?
  • Will I be using your car or mine? Will you be including a mileage fee?
  • Are there pet care responsibilities?
  • What kind of cooking is involved?

A well thought out list to take with you or have in front of you during a phone interview is a must, that way nothing gets overlooked. I usually make several copies just to have on hand for each family I interview with. It really helps when you get down to making a final choice.

Sometimes my best questions come out of just having a conversation with a potential family. Go with the flow and see where it leads. 


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Collegeville Mom

when a nanny is caring for two children & sometimes, three
what is the maximum number of hours he or she
should be able to work, in a day. And how long of
a break mid-day?


I've noticed that a lot of parents suddenly become uninterested in me because of my age even though I have more qualifications than a lot of the older nannies. I am 18 but have been caring for children for 4 years. I am CPR and first aid certified, I know how to cook nutritious meals, I integrate learning in all playtime activities(both school based and value based), and I genuinely love being around kids. They are interested in hiring me until I mention I am 18. Is age really a big deal if you know how to properly care for a child?

Florence Reynolds

Do you think that families of multiples should pay more ?
I find a add for triplets and the pay was $ 10 per hour
I find this like a insult to our job /

tari c.

Dear Neysa,
I love this site, but I have yet to get a job. It is very very frustrating for me and I am not sure why the parents don't pick me. I am highly educated, have a Master's in fine art, I have taken Early Childhood Education courses , and Im a montessori assistant. I have been a nanny for 10 years and i have excellent refernces. I always pass the phone interview, meet the parents and child/children at least 2 times, but they pick someone who used to teach 1st grade for a living or something and I cant compete with that. How should I act when I meet the parents? nice? charming? serious? intentional? I have tried these all. I look great on paper but how can I come across as being an asset to their family? I have lost so many jobs! help please!


I had a phone interview and while I was hoping for a much higher salary than was offered, I wasn't very assertive about it and I ended up nearly agreeing to a much lower salary than I think is fair (7 dollars an hour for two kids, one of whom is an infant, I have many years of childcare experience, but they live in Omaha and I know rates are lower there) I really like the family I interviewed with and I have a second phone interview with them tonight. I currently nanny for two school aged kids and I earn 13 dollars an hour. I am willing to take a pay cut with my move but losing 6 dollars an hour seems especially harsh. Please help! I don't want to offend her and I am not going to ask for much more (I would be willing I think to do 9 dollars an hour) but I don't know how.

Crystal Vazquez

How do u get a child to sleep in their own bed?Either my husband or I sleep on the couch because she waits for me to go to sleep and if i get out of bed she wakes up. So frustrating. Any suggestions??


I just wanted to respond to Amanda & Florence.

Amanda: I have the same problem as you. Only im 23. I have 5+ years plus training classes CPR the whole 9 yards and parents are still saying, i make a great fit they just wish i was older. :/

Florence: I totally think its a bust on us. I currently work for a family who is payin $10hr with 3 kids ( a 3yo and 19mon twins) i only accepted the job because i had just relocated to a new state and i was desperate. I should be making more because i do alot and hold up my experience well.

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