By Katie Bugbee
About the Writer:
Katie Bugbee is a writer, editor and Managing Editor at Care.com. She also has two tykes at home. She blogs about the drama of being a working mama.
And a Mama's Girl. And I'm not going to stop!
My 3.5 year old is a sweetheart. He talks about his feelings. He tries to sit with friends who are having Time Outs. He cuddles every chance he gets.
He's also what you might call a "Mama's Boy." He wants me to play with him, sleep with him, go to school with him. He's social and independent, but if he had his choice, he'd want Mom by his side.
I hope it stays like this forever.
According to a recent Wall Street Journal article, there is evidence that a strong mother-son bond prevents delinquency in adolescence. In this piece, Kate Stone Lombardi, author of the upcoming "The Mama's Boy Myth" reports that in "a study of more than 400 middle school boys revealed that sons who were close to their mothers were less likely to define masculinity as being physically tough, stoic and self-reliant. They not only remained more emotionally open, forming stronger friendships, but they also were less depressed and anxious than their more macho classmates. And they were getting better grades."
Honestly, that's my kind of boy.
My confession: When I was pregnant with my son, I didn't find out the gender. I was too afraid they would tell me it was a boy. I didn't have a brother. I didn't feel like I knew "boys." But I knew that whatever those doctors would hand me, I would love. I just didn't want to spend 9 months worrying about "raising a boy."
Now my husband and I have both a boy and a girl -- and we're not raising them any differently. At a preschool parent-teacher meeting, we were told that our son is incredibly sensitive. This isn't a quality I want to change. He's just like his mom. And while this trait can cause a lot of tears in the insecure early years, it's one of my favorite qualities about myself as an adult. As a writer, a friend, a colleague, a wife and a parent, I easily connect with people and understand what they're going through. I "feel" other people's joys and pain. I think it makes me a better person.
So call my cuddly, sappy, expressive son a Mama's Boy if you want. I'm just trying to raise a wonderful man.