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November 07, 2012

Work Is More Than a Paycheck

Some career advice is easier said than done: do what you love and don't work for assholes.

Sounds easy enough, doesn't it? But figuring out how to make it happen is complicated. I've had jobs I really liked, with bosses I hated, and vice versa. I've also stayed in jobs longer than I should have. Money talks and some jobs simply pay well enough to make you listen.

Of course, the older you get the more you don't want to work for just a paycheck. Now, I'm not suggesting that money isn't important. These days, many people feel lucky to have a job at all. But feeling passionate about work, contributing to the greater good and being appreciated for what you do is a winning combination. It takes work and some risk to make it happen, but it's worth the effort.

I've tried to convey that message to my children and other young adults, because I think it's important to have the end goal in sight as you move through the trial and error of balancing work and the rest of your life.

My mom has been a good role model. She changed careers in her early fifties, from a high school English teacher to a psychotherapist, in an era when most women were not working outside the home. At 83, she still has a thriving professional life. She could retire, but she loves her work more than she loves any notion of leisure.

As a social worker, I took on many roles over the years. I worked in hospitals, home care agencies, schools and businesses. Like many boomers, I juggled work with raising kids and helping to care for my dad who has dementia. There were times when I felt totally overwhelmed and wanted to get off the treadmill. Sometimes I felt like a jack of all trades and a master of none. When I finally decided that I was going to make choices based on what I loved doing (like designing programs that help family caregivers) and what I didn't like doing (spreadsheets and budgets), the choices seemed more clear.

I am fortunate. I work in a growing, dynamic company where I can pursue my passion and have a positive impact on people's lives. I work with great people. But through my line of work I also come in contact with many folks who feel stuck. I hear their stories and see that their spirits are depleted. I work to help them solve problems related to senior relatives who need assistance but I also wish I could help them get out of their job ruts. Yet how do you get un-stuck when you have mouths to feed and a mortgage to pay?

What is the cost of following your bliss at midlife?

Read the rest of this post from Jody Gastfriend, LICSW, at her blog


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